Do I Need A Funeral?
At Fallis & Shields Funeral Home, we understand everyones needs and wishes are different as we are individuals.
We are happy to accomodate 'simpler' requests, but encourage remembering your loved one in some way.
It is never mandatory for you to have a Funeral Service.
A Gathering in your backyard is as special.
We invite you to take a look below at why it might be beneficial and important to you and your family to have a gathering or funeral.
- A funeral is similar to other ceremonies in our lives. Like a graduation ceremony, a wedding, a baptism, a funeral is a rite of passage by which we recognize an important event that distinguishes our lives. The funeral declares a death has occurred, it helps us acknowledge that someone we love has died.
- Allows us to say goodbye.
- Funerals are also for the living, for those who will suffer the trauma of losing a loved one.
- Helps us remember our loved one and encourages us to share those memories with others.
- Offers a time and place for us to talk about the life and death of the loved one.
- Provides a social support system for us and other friends and family members.
- Allows us to search for the meaning of life and death.
- Offers continuity and hope for the living.
- It is through the funeral process that a number of emotional needs are met for those who grieve.
- The funeral is the first step in healing and has both psychological and social healing aspects.
- It is often the initial step toward separation from the deceased to the beginning of the grief process and re-establishing a place in our community without the loved one.
I believe grief is a process that involves a lot of time, energy and determination.
I won’t “get over it” in a hurry, so don’t rush me.
I believe grief is intensely personal.
This is my grief.
Don’t tell me how I should be doing it.
Don’t tell me what’s right or what’s wrong.
I’m doing it my way, in my time.
I believe grief is affecting me in many ways.
I am being affected spiritually, physically, emotionally, socially and mentally.
If I’m not acting like my old self, it’s because I’m not my old self and some days even I don’t understand myself.
I believe I will be affected in some way by this loss for the rest of my life.
As I get older, I will have new insights into what this death means to me.
My loved one will continue to be part of my life and influence me until the day I die.
I believe I am being changed by this process.
I see life differently.
Some things that were once important to me aren’t any more.
Some things I used to pay little or no attention to are now important.
I think a new me is emerging, so don’t be surprised – and don’t stand in the way
John Kennedy Saynor
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