Brian Douglas Lee

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LEE;  Brian Douglas ~ Date of Birth March 14, 1950 ~ On Sunday September 6, 2020 an exceptional man died.  After both a retirement and life that were shortened by lewy body dementia.  He closed those beautiful blue eyes for the last time.  He was the best husband, father, popa, brother, son, uncle, nephew, cousin, friend, mentor, my soulmate and my hero. Such a vibrant man.  He was our protector and provider.  He was our glue that kept the family together.  He is gone and we are reeling but he lives on as we model his warmth, strength, generosity and his black humour and his love of family.  He is irreplaceable.  Brian is survived by his loving wife Dianne (Wilson) of 48 years and two sons, Christopher of Cobourg and Michael of Cobourg (Kim) and two daughters Cara of Montreal (Jean) and Carrie of Baltimore (Todd), two granddaughters Ryleigh and Sophia who Brian loved and spending time with and grandson Jessie.  Predeceased by his father Raymond (1986) and his mother Muriel (1994), his brother Glenn and sisters Sharon (John) and Diana.  Brian is survived by his sister Valerie of Colborne and brother Kevin of Baltimore and Robert of Baltimore (Candy).  Brian is survived by his auntie Helen (The leader of the pack) of Toronto, Aunt Judy and uncle Art of Calgary and many cousins, nieces and nephews.  Brian was born in Regina Saskatchewan at Grey Nuns Hospital.  He moved often as his dad was in the army and had postings to Brandon Manitoba, Whitehorse Yukon, Cobourg Ontario, Montreal Quebec and back to Cobourg when his dad retired.  Brian made friends easily and was a very loyal, fun loving, adventurous character.  He had life long friends who he cherished and kept in touch with over the years.  Brian always had a love of classic cars and owned several Chevy Impalas his favourite was his last one, his Pontiac GTO.  He also owned many motorcycles over the years his last one was a Harley Davidson trike and he drove into his sixties.  He did many bike trips with friends and family to Kingston,  Laconia New Hampshire and Friday the 13th to Port Dover, Saranac Lake and through New York State and many spontaneous day trips were really enjoyed.  Brian had a love of sports and enjoyed skiing, hockey, golf and baseball.  Brian sponsored our ball team "Elgin Variety" and enjoyed our weekly games, tournaments and made many friends, there were a lot of special activities that he was involved in. Brian was their coach for a few years.  Reading was another of Brian's passions anything to do with sports or financial kept his interest.  He had an amazing memory for sport trivia, remembering players and dates.  His favourite hockey team was the Pittsburgh Penguins and the Toronto Blue Jays for baseball.   He worked at General Foods/Kraft for 40 years.  He started as a factory worker.  He later went to school and worked hard and after four years earned his trade as an Industrial Mechanic Millwright in 1990.  He enjoyed this profession very much.  His last position that he held was Maintenance Auditor for Cereal and Rice Department until 2008 when the plant was closed.  He worked on and helped design a computer program for their lockout system.  Brian travelled to Minnesota to research their candy line which was brought and implemented to the Cobourg plant.  Brian was involved in many of their social functions, the annual ball tournaments, attending many of their dances, bus trips to Blue Jay games, ski trips and the ball tournaments in Montreal.  Lots of fun.  Brian was a member of their Quarter Century Club.  Every five years he got to choose a gift.  He would pick something for others.  He would say what would I do with a gold watch.  He would never miss these special dinners.  We always enjoyed watching the kids sports, baseball, soccer, hockey, golf.  Brian coached many of their hockey teams.  Playing golf was a highlight when he played with his sons.  He also enjoyed playing in the Cornwall hockey tournaments.  The highlight was watching Brian play on the same team as his sons.  He loved that.  We also did many ski holidays to Owl's Head in the Eastern Townships, out to Calgary in 1988 on Christmas day with the boys. We skiied Banff, Sunshine and Lake Louise and Mount Norquay.  There were also trips to Collingwood, Blue Mountain, St Louis Moonstone, and Hidden Valley.  Brian also enjoyed going on golf trips with his buddies to Ocean City Maryland and Myrtle Beach.  Brian was full of surprises.  One day in 1986 he said guess what I want to buy.  Turns out it was the old Jim's Music store that he would visit as a child.  He thought it would give us something to do and be a job for his mother. We had it for seven years and turns out it's still there now 33 years later.  He always wanted to build a house on a golf course.  He did build a home at Dalewood on the first hole in 1986.  There were trips to Florida for one month when the company had their shut down in 1980 and another family trip there in 1995.  There were road trips to Montreal, Cooperstown New York and Washington DC in 1986 and  family golf trip to Myrtle Beach. We travelled often after the kids  left the nest.  There was 2011 Mediterranean cruise and saw Italy, Greece, Croatia, Turkey.  Another to Norway in 2013.  It was on Brian's bucket list as his grandmother was from Bergen Norway and a week prior to London England.  There was a ferry trip in 1999 doing the inside passage also visiting Vancouver Island, White Rock BC, Calgary Alberta, Regina Saskatchewan, Whitehorse Yukon, Skagway Alaska leaving from Bellingham Washington.  We were gone for one month.  We stayed and visited family and friends along the way.  In the 2000's we spent summers visiting each province in the Maritimes, and covered every one except Labrador and Gaspe.  Every January Brian would look for a deal to somewhere warm.  We travelled to St Kitts, Dominican Republic, Punta Canta, Cuba, Jamicia and St Martin being our favourite island.  Our last trip there we shared with my sister and her husband.  Brian enjoyed showing them the sites.  Brian was a fantastic cook and loved to bar b que and he was very happy to entertain family and friends.  He would tell me get out of my kitchen when he was cooking.  Our house was always opened to friends and family on Christmas eve, he loved this.  His favourite saying was "Life is Good" and yes it sure was.  When he retired he also enjoyed spending time with friend’s playing cards at Kelly's hotel and getting caught up with the latest gossip.  Brian did not like to have the spot light on himself.  If there was something to be done he would just do it.  Brian would also be there for his family if there was a need.  He felt he had to be the father figure after his parents passed.  He would also give you his opinion, whether you wanted to hear it or not.  Sometimes good or bad.  Family was his pride and joy and we all know how blessed we were to have him in our lives.  Brian supported his parents and also mine through their final challenges.  Brian was also there for me during my health issues in 2014, every step of the way.  He was my rock.  Our family could not have made it through this ordeal without the tremendous support of Danielle and Denyse of the PKLNH Alzheimer's Society and Dianne's support group.  The caring staff of Streamway Villa in Cobourg especially in Brian's last days, we can't thank you enough for everything you have done for Brian and our family.  You are all angels.   To our wonderful friends and family and neighbours.  We thank you on Brian's behalf.  A big thank you to Dianne's three dear friends, Lynn Ramsay, Paulette Mercier, Penny Stewart who were always there with their love and support.  Thank you to Auntie Helen, cousins Deb, Lana, and Donna for their lunch visits to the home.  Your visits were a great comfort to both of us.  Thank you to Aunt Judy and Uncle Art of Calgary for your visit and lunch date at the home and for your love and support.  Thank you to my dear friend Linda Temple for your support, our talks your empathy and visits and treats with Brian he always knew you.  And also for the many checking in phone calls.  Thanks to our granddaughter, Sophia for her many visits to popa with her daddy and Gizmo.  Popa loved you so much.  Thanks also to Tyr for you many visits to popa with your nanie and mommy.  Brian would light up when he saw you.

Service Information

As per Brian's request there will be no formal service or visitation. In lieu of flowers donations to the Alzheimer's Society, Canadian Cancer Society or the Parkinson's Society would be appreciated by the family. Cremation has taken place with a celebration of life held at a later date due to COVID. Arrangements entrusted to Fallis & Shields Funeral Home and online condolences or donations may be made at


Dianne, we are so sorry to hear of Brian's passing. Please accept our most sincere condolences.

Paul and Debbie Herriot

Diane, Chris,Michael and family. Our deepest condolences to you all. Our thoughts and prayers are with you all.

Jane and Bill McIvor

Dianne and Family, Sorry to hear of Brian's passing, Our thoughts are with you and your family at this difficult time.

Carol & Garry Etcher

I’m so sorry for your loss. He was an incredible man and I am blessed to have known him!

Emily newton

So sorry for your loss....he always could make me giggle.... he will be missed

Tine (Mulder) Sughrue

Dianne and family We are so sorry to hear of Brian’s passing. Please accept our sincere condolences!

Bob and Helen McCracken

So sorry Dianne. Brian was such a wonderful guy. Loved everything about life. Lived it to the fullest. He will be missed by so many. Deb and I are thinking of you.

Randy Oliver

Our condolences to you Diane and family.It seems only yesterday we worked the midnight shift at G.F..It was a pleasure for me when Brian did his apprenticeship to become a mechanic.God bless him you,and your family.

Gary Dunn

With many heartfelt thoughts and deepest sympathy.

Colin and Ruth Watson

So sorry to hear about Brian's passing

Vic Gabovic

Dianne, Chris, Michael and family, we are so sorry for your loss. Brian was a much loved cousin and friend to us, and will be missed. Thoughts and prayers are with you all. Rest In Peace cousin. We love you. Lana, Jaime and family xo

Lana Lee

Please accept our deepest sympathy and condolences. Brian was a second father to us. We will always cherish our special dinners together. His wisdom and humour will live on in all of us. He was the best person with the biggest heart. All our love, David, Lucy, Ava and Nicholas

David and Lucy Bedard

Sorry to hear of Brian passing Dianne, my condolences.

Chris Richards

Dianne and family. So sorry to hear of Brian’s passing. Our thoughts will be with you and family at this time.

Stan Baker & Marian Spicer

Sorry to hear aboutBrian’s passing .Please accept our deepest sympathies. Reg and Debbie

Reg and Debbie Stevenson

We are sorry to hear of your loss. Thinking of you at this time. Ralph is recalling those hockey days with Brian. Good times.

Ralph & Norma Stoffers

Dianne, Chris, and Michael, I am so sorry to hear of the passing of Brian. My thoughts and prayers are with you all during this difficult time.

Greg Stevenson

On behalf of Theresa and I, we would like to send our condolences to your family..may he rest in peace.

Scott and Theresa Tuttle

Dear Dianne, we are so sorry to hear about Brian. Dave has fond memories of playing hockey with Brian and we both remember a hockey tournament in TO. Good memories. Thinking of you and the boys . May memories comfort you at this sad time . Condolences , Dianne Sincerely Anne and Dave

Anne and Dave Doyle

Dianne and Family So sorry to hear of your loss. Brian was always the life of the party. He will be missed by all who have known him.

Rick and Glenda Young

To your entire Family... What a beautiful tribute. Brian was always so friendly and happy. Definitely a man and person who stood out. I enjoyed playing hockey with Brian (and Chris) and even spent time with his father Ray when I was in Calgary back in '82-83. Sorry for your loss, and may your memories and smiles ease your pain.

Terry Barrett

Dianne, Chris, Michael, Carrie and your families. I’m so sorry for your loss. Brian was one in a million. I’ll miss him very much. I’m thinking about you all with love and prayers during this very difficult time. Xoxo

Cousin Debbie Lee

Sending loving thoughts and strength to your family . I will always remember Brian as a special part of my growing up and working with him also at GF and their golf trips ! Please accept my condolences ❤️ Love always Watt and Heffernan family

Trisha Heffernan Watt

so sorry for your loss Dianne stay strong hugs to you

Audrey Molenaar

Deepest condolences to Brian’s family and loved ones. He will be truly missed by many. May he Rest In Peace.

John and Marriann Provost

We were so sorry to hear of your loss, our thoughts and prayers go out to you Dianne and the family . He will now rest in peace. Francis and Debbie Hay

Francis Hay

Condolences to you Diane and family. It was a pleasure to have had the opportunity to work with Brian at Kraft

Kees Kerkhoven

Dianne; our deepest sympathies to you and your family on the loss of Brian.

Scott and Colleen Robinson

So sorry to hear of Brian’s passing. I,too, can’t say enough about the help I received through our support group at Grace Church, Danielle was wonderful .my thoughts are with you.

Ann Coghill

Dianne & Family: So sorry for your loss. Brian fought hard and you were such a great caregiver. My sincere sympathy.

Lynn Wallace

Diane, Chris and Michael and family. We send our deepest condolences to you all. So many great memories of Brian and you playing baseball and all the fun we had! I remember going to the house on Elgin Street on Saturday nights for euchre many moons ago. Brian's Mom and Dad were great hostesses. Sending you hugs and kisses.

Susan and Ted Blute